CHILD WELLBEING RESPONSIVE TOOLKITS

Coping with change

The California Partners Project is engaged in a statewide listening tour with mothers, parents, and caregivers to understand how they are managing realities, and respond with lessons learned from a challenging year. A mom in Santa Rosa shared, “The kids still have a lot of questions. We are trying to take it as it comes and do our best.”

Uncertainty about rules can create anxiety. Early in the pandemic youth adapted to new rules about social distancing, masks, and limits on activities and gatherings. But over time some rules have relaxed, and others have been discarded based on evolving health circumstances and vaccine status. As youth restart previous routines and activities (Summer Guide, Digital Wellness Lab), they may feel stress, confusion and exhaustion as they adjust, especially while vaccines are not yet available for younger children.

Adjusting to new norms may impact some communities differently than others. The Stress in America survey by the American Psychological Association found that Blacks (57%) feel the most “uneasy about adjusting to in-person interaction once the pandemic ends” followed by Latinos (50%), Asians (51%) and Whites (47%). The spectrum of unease will be felt throughout families.

Tips to support families with reopening anxiety

You know your child best and are the best judge of how much information to share about shifting rules.

Parents know whether more or less information will trigger or lessen anxiety for their family. Clinical psychologist Michelle Rozenman advises parents to “provide age-appropriate transparency about why your family makes decisions about pandemic rules. Try to do so without verbalizing judgment about the decisions of other families.”

Move at your own pace to adjust to new realities.

Families experienced the challenges of the pandemic differently, often because of systemic inequalities. The transition to in-person activities will be different for everyone. Vicki Harrison, MSW and Program Director at the Center for Youth Mental Health and Wellbeing at Stanford University School of Medicine, reminds us that “out of necessity, we adapted to being isolated and separated so it will take time for some to adjust to new in-person routines.”

Ask your children questions to learn what they are feeling.

Pediatrician and child health advocate Dr. Jackie Douge suggests “take time to listen to the concerns of each child. It will be easier to tackle the issues if you know what is going on. It is more difficult to respond to an unknown.”

Slowly introduce new situations using your family’s rules with your children.

Clinical psychologist Michelle Rozenman recommends “parents gradually introduce new situations using the rules you want your child to follow as restrictions ease. This gradual exposure will allow your child to practice behaviors that align with your own rules in advance and in a slow, stepwise way so that your child can adjust and become more comfortable.”